One in five people in the world are in pain at any given time. It is the great equalizer across continents, race, religion, and gender. Most of us look at pain as something to avoid; something to ignore, shove down, and deny. We don’t want to feel it and yet pain is often our most important teacher and greatest gift. What if you started to turn towards your pain? What if you stopped avoiding it and actually embraced it and what it has to share with you? It is time to step out of the fear of the pain and to start working with it.

Here are three simple tips for managing and even releasing your chronic pain.

Name Your Pain

Stop resisting! You’re in pain. It is what it is. Take a moment to actually stop running from it and pause. Face your pain, give it a name even, and embrace it. No more shoving it down and avoiding it. When you resist, you only allow the pain to linger. The pain will wait patiently for you to deal with it for as long as you keep shoving it down. You may medicate it today, but it will be back tomorrow, and quite often it will be even stronger. Build a new relationship with your pain that is of acceptance and healthy boundaries.

Love Your Pain

We all know that healing is something that happens much more easily, sometimes even effortlessly, when we feel loved. So, as crazy as it sounds, love your pain. It is part of you, and this part of you that is suffering needs to be loved more than anything. Take a moment right now to send love to that part of you that is hurting. Most likely, you’ve been sending anger and frustration to it. Stop. Breathe. Be present with it as if it has come to you needing comfort and attention. This alone can often create tremendous healing.

Ask the Pain What It Needs to Heal

We spend so much time telling the part of us that is hurting what it needs to feel better. What if you actually asked it directly what it needs in order to heal? Our bodies are always communicating with us so why not learn to listen? As you do this, you will notice it being affected by your loving kindness.

Healing must take place on all levels of who we are. Often, wounds of the heart and mind are more damaging than physical wounds, so ask the part of you that is in pain what it needs from you to heal on all levels: body, mind, spirit.

  • Dear (Name of your pain), what can I do on the physical level in order to help you to heal?
  • Dear (Name of your pain), what can I do on the mental level, with my thoughts, in order to help you heal?
  • Dear (Name of your pain), what can I do on the spirit level, with my heart in order to help you heal?

Listen for the answers, and when they come, act upon them immediately. This new way of communicating with your pain is an ongoing dialogue of love, respect, and action. Through these conversations, you will begin to develop your own individual recipe for healing.

The Edgar Cayce readings also suggested the benefits of this:

“If such an attitude is held, if such an attitude is manifested in the conversation, in the dealings with the body, then there may be created that environ—by the very nature of good in its every form held as respecting the body—to bring the better mental, physical and spiritual environment for the body.” (1515-1)

 Through these simple processes you will move from being a victim to your pain to a larger more expanded and well lived life.